Tell Me You Love Me (TV Series)

Episode #1.9 (2007)

Jane Alexander: Dr. May Foster

Quotes 

• Dr. May Foster : When Nick tells you he loves you, what do you say?

  Jaime : [chuckles]  Um, I kiss him, and then change the subject.

  Dr. May Foster : [laughs]  Well, that's a tried and true method.

  Jaime : Yeah, but not for me. I mean, usually when a guy tells me he loves me--which happens a lot--I just say it right back, even if it's not true, you know? Just seeing it in their face, and... feeling all that stuff, you just feel is worth it.

  Dr. May Foster : And then what happens?

  Jaime : I usually fuck around on them, try to figure out a way to leave them, usually blame them for something, and then get into another relationship.

  Dr. May Foster : But this time, you said was different. This time you said you weren't doing that. Tell me why you think you weren't doing it.

  Jaime : I don't know. I mean, I can't tell him I love him back. I don't want to. And I wish that I could because it would just make it a lot easier to lie about it. You know, he's not upset, I'm not upset. There's not that, you know, weird moment or that awkward space that just kinda sits there wherein I'm not saying I don't love you.

  Dr. May Foster : I don't think that's a bad thing.

  Jaime : Yeah, well, it makes me feel shitty. I mean, what if he's the guy, you know? What if I'm so fucked up that the right guy is standing right in front of me and I can't say it? And what if I can only say it to the wrong people?

  Dr. May Foster : Well, I don't think that's the case. I think you're examining some very valid issues.

  Jaime : You know, I've spent so long in relationships that I don't know... it's like, I have no lines, no boundaries. And it never used to bother me before and now it drives me crazy. Now I wanna run. But I'm afraid to run because I'm afraid to be alone, so I stay. Only now, I'm like this blob who can really fuck, and there's no--there's nothing.

  Dr. May Foster : Well, the obvious answer is of course to spend some time, a decent amount of time, alone. Changing who you're with obviously doesn't work. Unless you change, the issues will remain the same.

  Jaime : You know, part of me just wants to run off and marry him. I mean, he's a great guy. So what am I doing?

  Dr. May Foster : Jaime, if you really find it difficult to be alone it seems to me you have few choices. One. You can tell him you love him, see what happens. Or you can keep on kissing him and changing the subject, which doesn't come without its own challenges but you seem to be up to it. Or you can tell him the truth. You can tell him how you feel, that you need some time.