If you don't get what my little emoticon headline means above it means, to me, the movie was a major sleeper but also carries a positive spiritual message but unfortunately you don't really 'get-it' til the very end and that's only if you stayed awake and hung in there throughout this entire mostly painfully slow true story biopic flick. There was just way too much slow idle time throughout anything worth watching in it. And there were way too many boring slow totally useless scenes that were just dumb. And, honestly, I'm sure we didn't need to see Naomi Watts (Pam) going pee (twice) and make several other gross bodily excrement noises that is unless that's how the film makers were killing time. There was a lot of time killing. Maybe if the film makers included Pam and John's stories of woe it might have made more sense. Yes there powerful message at the end but more about their previous lives woulda made it more so. That's all folks!