The Red Pill (2016)

Paul Elam: Self

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• Paul Elam : It's one thing when you look at what happens to women and you feel normal healthy outrage about it and that should happen. But when you can look at what's happening in our courts to men, and in our medical establishment to men, in our schools to men, and yet we remain so cerebral about all of it, "Yes, well that is certainly something to consider." If it were happening to any other group, we would be having protests from coast to coast. The fact is that it's happening to men every day in front of our eyes and people will get angry at you if you try to talk about it. That's how deep the prejudice runs.

• Warren Farrell : Many Men's Rights Activists come into being Men's Rights Activists as a result of getting a divorce, wanting to be equally involved with the children and realizing that women have the right to children and men have to fight for children.

  Paul Elam : When your family courts run on the supposition that mothers are more fit to be custodial parents, and that fathers are more fit to provide a check every month, and become what we like to call "uncle-daddy" where they visit, visit their children. To me that's one of the greatest obscenities in the world, the idea of visiting your own children. Where you get to see them for 2 hours on Wednesday night, and you get to have them for "x" amount of hours every other weekend, and you have no say in how they're brought up.

  Harry Crouch : You know I can't tell you how many men have been in this office, in that chair, in tears because they can't see their kids.

• Cassie Jaye : Why do you think that the men's rights movement is at odds with feminism? What has created that clash, that war between each other?

  Paul Elam : Well, one, feminism has spent the last 50 years demonizing men, which is sort of one of the problem. Feminist scholars have characterized men as inherently violent, inherently bad, inherently predatory, inherently oppressive. They have postulated that masculinity is a disease.

  Dean Esmay : Feminists aren't the only problem, the problems didn't start with feminism, so when I start criticizing feminism, I want you to know... you're just part of the problem, they're just part of the problem. You calling men oppressors and women oppressed, demonizes men and I believe diminishes women at the same time. It's a way of telling men to shut up, it's a way of telling men that their experiences don't matter. You tell a man that he is privileged, therefore, anything he's gone through or anything that he has to say doesn't matter. His lived experiences don't matter because he's privileged.

• Paul Elam : The red pill is about looking at these issues in an honest way even when it's uncomfortable. And these things are uncomfortable, but without the willingness to set aside the programming and to set aside the false beliefs about what power is, and what women are, and who women are. Part of what we do is a pretty serious critique of both sexes. It's brutal. But critiquing the sexes is a real valuable thing; feminists don't want you to do it though, unless you're portraying women as victims and men as perpetrators. The red pill is about understanding that men and women are like everything else in the world, it's a mixed bag, you've got victims and perpetrators on both sides of the fence. And that's all, it's real simple, it's just not easy.